Out of the Mouths of My Babes

The other day, while watching Lily and Jrod played outside, I noticed Lily playing too close to the street. I quickly ran over and reminded her to not get too close, or a car might hurt her. As I walked away, I heard Jrod's commentary on my parental advice: "Lily, it's OK. If a car hurts you, you would just go to heaven. There's really fun stuff there."

I've wondered at times about what comes out of my kid's mouths. But the more they say, the more I realize that most of their editorial comments and inquisitive questions are usually the product of their innocent (albeit sometimes confused) perspectives on life. And at times the comments even humble us as parents.

While driving home in Chris' long awaited new car, Jrod asked the ultimate question: "Mom, Dad, how much did this car cost?" When we told him, he responded without question: "Holy Cow. You definitely don't have that much money. I mean, mom doesn't even have a real job." Once again, I let the "real job" comment pass, and I tried to focus on the car situation.

"Jrod, you're right we don't have enough money, so we borrowed it from the bank, and then we'll pay the bank back."

"Oh, I get it," totally satisfied with my answer, "you guys got something you didn't have enough money to buy because you really wanted it. Can I get a pool?"

Unbelievable. We both knew there was no honest explanation, so we just said no to the pool. When Jrod asked, “Why,” we simply added the common phrase parents use when they don't really have a formed answer to a well thought out question: "Because we said so."

Over the years I have come to appreciate and even treasure the various statements that come out of our kid's mouths. The following are a few selected comments that have come from our beloved children during the last couple of years:

When Ella's friend told her that a girl in their class is Egyptian, Ella responded: "Oh, No! I thought she worshiped the One True God!"

While Jrod was using the bathroom, I told him I'd run down and get him some more toilet paper. His unnerving response: "It's OK, mom, I just used the shower curtain."

Jrod explained to Lily on one occasion the fine details of the Trinity: "Lily, God is three persons: The Father, The Son, and The Holy Monster."

Ella found a teachable moment for her younger brother when passing by a graveyard: "Jrod, everyone dies at some point. When they die, you have a funeral, and then you put the body in a Quesadilla."

Ella was explaining to her friend why I had stitches in my leg: "My mom has stitches because she had a mole removed." Ella's friend asked her what a mole is, and Ella responded quite confidently, "A mole is what happens when you leave food out. She probably left old food on her leg."

Jrod remains confident to this day on his thoughts regarding his younger sister: "Mom, did you know that Lily is a boy? I mean, mom, look at her."

One of our finer teaching moments as parents came after the following conversation I had with my son while cleaning the kitchen: Jrod said very curiously, "Mom, when in the world is Dad going to become a Christian?"

I told him with all surety that Dad was already a Christian.

"No way! You mean Dad is a Christian like Tim Tebow? "

And yet another one of Jrod's many random comments on the way home from school: "Mom, in my whole life, I only know one person who is going to hell."

"Who is that, Jrod?"

"That man who came to our door and gave us all that stuff about Jehovah."

A few days before Easter, I was working on a piano piece that I intended to play during our Church’s Worship Service. Jrod called to me from the kitchen: "Mom, is that a new song you’re trying out?"

"Yep. It's for Easter. Do you like it?"

"Mom, it kind of sounds like a nervous wreck."

All out of the mouths of my babes.......and there still is a third who is learning how to put together words that will eventually transform into the kinds of editorial comments that all at once give us ulcers, good laughs, and full, full hearts.

Ministry Lessons

There are many things that seminary does not teach. My husband would say that he felt very equipped when it came to languages, preaching, and theology in general, but there are certain lessons that seminary simply cannot cover. Certain situations, such as conducting a session meeting, forming a weekly schedule, managing staff, handling hospital visits, all have to be learned through experience.

A few of our "experiences" in the pastorate have been nothing short of memorable through the years. Whether good or bad, we've learned to tuck what we've learned under our belts, should we ever need to fall back on past lessons learned.

Two years ago, we found my son on a Sunday morning in a very inconspicuous place: standing in front of the fire alarm at our church. Chris found him just before the service began. Jrod had his hand up on the alarm and, as if in slow motion, Chris ran to him yelling, "No!" Jrod quickly put his hand down, and Chris took the next several minutes to explain to my son the seriousness of pulling one of those alarms.

When it comes to my son, I have to admit I understand his problems. Jrod is too much like me. We both have demented minds, according to my husband.

Our family purchased a trampoline a few years ago, and it was placed right below our deck. As soon as it was set up, my first thought was how much fun it would be to jump from the deck to the trampoline. No one else in our family understands these kinds of thoughts, except for my son.

So, after hearing about the alarm incident, it was as if I could feel the burning in my own hand, just as I'm sure my son did in his. And it was as if I could hear the questions going through his little mind while starring up at the daunting red thing on the wall: "What would it do? What would it be like? Could it possibly have enough force and sound to lift me up in the sky?" I suppose I can't argue too much with my husband's demented mind comment.

The following Sunday was Easter Sunday. A glorious day, as usual. The service concluded beautifully, and it wasn't until we were greeting our church family afterward that it happened. One of the most unnerving sounds on the planet - the fire alarm.

My husband and I looked at each other and in a simultaneous yell, we called out our sons full name. The only other time this has occurred was the day Jonathan Rodney Polski was born. We ran up the stairs and found him standing in front of the red alarm.

In a moment like this, the relation between a mother and her son and a father and his son is very distinctly defined. While starring at the boy, my husband saw the devil himself. I, however, saw tiny innocence - surely his friend pulled it.

Walking down the stairs, making his way though the loud confusion, my husband carried our son outside and placed him on a bench. I personally think Chris' exhortation to his son was quite good, considering. Really, considering the fact that he had sternly been over why not to pull the fire alarm the week before, and considering the fact that this was Easter Sunday and we had to bother the headmaster and other leaders at the school where our church meets because the Fire Men couldn't figure out how to turn the alarm off, and considering the fact that we even had Fire Men at church on Easter Sunday on account of my son, I think he held it together pretty well.

An hour later, the chaos was over. We got in the car, not uttering a word about the events of the morning. Ella finally broke the silence: "Mom, Dad, is it OK if I tell my friends about this tomorrow? They would totally think it's hilarious."

This was a learning experience. Chris now knows how to handle one of his children pulling the fire alarm on an Easter Sunday, should this ever occur again.

And then a few weeks ago, we celebrated Easter again. Another glorious day. We were excited to celebrate with our church family. My grandparents were visiting from Pennsylvania, the same ones who experienced last Easter's fire truck "experience." The service was moving along as planned, that is until my grandfather became ill in the middle of Chris' sermon.

Now it's important to explain a little bit about my family. Being a seventh generation pastor's wife, I have learned that there are few circumstances that would stop a pastor in our family from not finishing a sermon. Other than facing death itself, the worship service must always go on.

In fact, when my mother was young, my grandfather was watching her misbehave from the platform at the church he pastored. As a pastor's daughter myself, I know how "free" you can feel when both of your parents are involved in the intricacies of the service. I'm sure my mother had the same thought I did: "What can they do?"

Now that I'm a parent of devious pastor's kids myself, I know "they" can do something. The worship service will not be interrupted, but something will be done. When the time was appropriate, my grandfather stepped down from the stage, took my mom out, spanked her, and returned, settling comfortably into the pulpit in order to complete his sermon without being distracted by a misbehaving daughter.

So, when my grandfather came close to fainting on this Easter Sunday, my grandmother's response was not surprising in the least: she did not move. She explained later that she figured the less she moved, the less my grandfather's situation would distract the worship service.

But then there were others watching the event unfold, including my husband. Standing in the pulpit, nearing the end of his second of three points, he noticed the situation with my grandfather.

There is one place and one place alone that my husband can do more than one thing at once - in the pulpit. He described later the simultaneous thoughts that were running through his mind:

1. The passage and sermon itself (one of those minor focuses a pastor has to consider when preaching)
2. It looks like Grandpa's OK.
3. Should I stop? If I do, I'll disrupt the worship service and Grandma and Grandpa "B" wouldn't want that. If I don't, people might take that as insensitive toward my family. Good grief.
4. They're going to call an ambulance to make sure he's OK (at the sight of one of our friends walking outside on his cell phone)
4. I have about five minutes to finish up point number three before the ambulance arrives. That way, the paramedics can come in during the closing hymn instead of the middle of the sermon.
5. What can I cut out? I need to wrap it up.

My husband is remarkable, to say the least. As the concluding hymn began, the ambulance arrived and the paramedics came in to care for my grandfather, who was fine and needed no additional assistance.

Another learning experience. Chris now knows what to do if a family member appears ill during a worship service, should that ever happen again.

But then, a few weeks ago, there was yet another pastoral "situation." This one, like the others had no past experience to draw from. Chris was asked to participate in the youth auction where the kids were trying to raise money for their trip to Jamaica. When he turned down the "give a lot of money and you cant throw a pie in Chris' face" idea, he knew he would have to come up with something else.

My husband has had a plethora of opportunities, and I purposefully call them that, to be a good sport through the years. Again, there is no seminary education that can prepare you for the various "favors" people seem to ask of you in the ministry - especially when you are the "youth guy." Chris has been asked to play the burly "Hans Bronson" in a children's musical, he has played a nerdy professor for Vacation Bible School, and has even worn tights when asked to play the part of a lizard.

When he moved into a Senior Pastor position, I'm sure a part of him had hoped that perhaps he was phasing out of these types of "roles." Not only did this phase not pass, but somehow, as a couple, we attained various roles... together. Chris and I have fit all too comfortably into roles such as Popeye and Olive Oil, but nothing could compare to what we did together last weekend for the youth auction.

In the name of raising money for something good, Chris and I sang and we danced. This did not occur in the privacy of our own home, where my children have been known to cry over our voices, rather this occurred in front of our church congregation. We re-wrote the words to the song "Wind Beneath my Wings," and we did the unthinkable: we sang together... out loud. But it did not end there. We danced a choreographed routine. A true out of body experience, I must say.

Another learning experience. Chris now knows how to dance in front of his congregation one night and preach in front of them the next morning. Chris is not, however, tucking this learned lesson under his belt. As fun as it was, folks, this, quite frankly, is one learned experience that we won't be drawing from again.

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My Internal Clock

When it comes to time, I'm never early. I'm rarely on time, and I'm usually late. I believe the reasons for my time deficiencies are out of my control. In fact, it's rarely my fault. My husband, on the other hand, believes that I have an internal clock that is "off." Apparently this warped internal clock affects my ability to think rationally about time. So he says.

My explanation is quite different and quite simple: It's not all my fault. My inability to be on time has much to do with three little people that are attached to me twenty-four hours a day. In fact, I'm actually very organized in the way I carve out time. If I have to be somewhere, I plan how each minute will be spent up until the departure time.

But, I know I can't blame all of the time deficiency on our children. I admit that I carve in no extra time for mishaps; there is no "just in case" moments built in. And, I should know by now, mishaps are inevitable with three, young children. Were I a single person, my time lines just might work out perfectly. However, I'm not. Perhaps someday this will sink in.

My sister, Bekah, has been in town the last couple of days. We had a plan that included me picking her up at 9:45 a.m. This meant departure time for the day would be 9:30 a.m. I figured I would have plenty of time to get things done around the house before we had to leave for the day. So, I mentally planned out my time line. It was set, and I was ready for it. By 9:30 a.m., I would easily be out of the house while still accomplishing everything on my "to do" list.

At 5:45 a.m. my alarm went off. My intention was to get up, take a jog, jump in the shower, and be completely ready before we had to wake up the two older kids at 7:15 for school. I looked at the time and thought about my little time table for the morning. So much to do before 9:30.

That was the last thing I remember. The next time my eyes opened it was 6:20. I jumped out of bed, figuring I would readjust a few areas on the time line and still be fine. By 7:20 I was back from a jog and ran upstairs to wake up the kids. No time for a shower. Getting the kids ready took twice as long because Jrod fought against me helping him. I was "sweaty and smelly," so he asked that I stay away - far away. After rejecting his request several times, I finally caved. It was taking too long to help him get dressed with one hand over his nose.

Finally, Ella and Jrod were dressed, fed, packed up, and out the door. I was right on schedule. Except for the shower. Regardless, I felt pretty good about my time line and all that I had accomplished thus far. I could finish everything I needed to twenty minutes earlier than planned and would fit in that shower just in time to walk out the door.

After an hour of emails, cleaning, trying to rationalize with a two year old why she can't eat cookies for breakfast, writing, and laundry I was finally finished with all that I had hope to accomplish....and all right on time. Except for the shower.

I had a half hour before we had to leave - plenty of time to shower and get ready. I set Lily in front of cartoons and quickly made my way up the stairs. One minute later Lily swung open the bathroom door asking for a "bubble bath." When I told her no, I realized the temper tantrum would take up more time than the bath. So I turned on the water, added the bubbles, and stuck her in the tub. It was now ten after nine. I could still take a quick shower.

About a minute into my shower, Lily began screaming. I got out, soap in my hair, and saw her pointing frantically to something in the bath. My daughter has pooped in the tub before, and because my anxiety level goes up, so does hers. She began crying and screaming "clean up!" My thoughts exactly. Gross.

So, I pulled her out of the tub, put her in a towel and began the ugly process. Once everything was cleaned and Cloroxed, I filled the tub back up. For a brief moment, I felt OK. But then I looked at the clock: 9:28. I called my sister. The soap was beginning to dry in my hair.

"Um, Bek. I'm going to be a little bit late. I think I can get out of here in the next ten minutes." I will admit that this is when my sense of time goes drastically awry. I realize it every time, in hind site, but when I'm in the midst of trying to get out the door somehow I'm convinced I can do it.

She assured me it was fine and told me she'd see me around 10:00. Once I was showered and ready, I opened the drain to let Lily's bath water out. The second temper tantrum of the day began, and there was no diverting this one. She wanted the water, but she simply couldn't have it. We had to be in the car in three minutes.

She lay prostrate in the tub with all the water drained. It's amazing the positions that child can hold when she wills it to happen. I took her out, straight as a board, and did my best to dress her. By the time Lily was in the car, it was 9:55. A 10:00 a.m. arrival time was going to be, well, difficult.

As soon as I started the engine, I realized that I wasn't entirely sure about the directions to where Bekah and I were headed for the day. Here is another part of my time tables that I all too often neglect: I have a terrible sense of direction. And when I say terrible, I mean it's bad. It's really bad. In high school, when my sense of direction was at it's worst, I ended up in east St. Louis...trying to get to West County Mall.

Acknowledging the fact that getting lost was an extreme possibility, I ran back inside and tried to pull up "Map Quest" on my computer. After speaking unkind words to my frozen laptop, I got back in the car, map less.

The time was 10:05. At least I made it out of the house. There was a point, around 9:45, when I actually wondered if that was going to happen. As I sped away to pick up my sister, Bekah, I called my other sister. From Georgia, she found the directions to where we were supposed to go. While trying to memorize exit numbers, I heard a terrible, terrible sound.

There is not much that triggers my tear reflex, but the sound of a cop car following behind me gets those tears flowing. I don't have to conjure it up; I don't even have to will them to come. It's remarkable, quite actually, how well it works. I hung up on my sister and pulled off to the side of the road.

The officer approached my door. "Good morning, Ma'am. Can I have your license and registration?" I had sunglasses on, so I figured I could hide my inability to keep my composure, but I was unable to do so. I snorted through my tears. How utterly embarrassing.

"Ma'am, licence and registration?" I was digging through my purse trying to find my wallet. I took out about ten lollipops, two baby dolls, three "ABC" books, two plastic containers full of crackers and goldfish, several packets of fruit snacks, two diapers, and an extra large packet of Wet Ones. By the time I retrieved the Wet Ones, my hands were shaking. But then, at the bottom of my "purse," was my wallet. Thank the Lord.

I pulled out my license, and then gave the officer the other card that I thought he asked for.

"Ma'am? Ma'am this is your health insurance. I'm going to need your car insurance."

Good grief. I pulled out the next card and handed it to the officer, not in a composed sort of way.

"Ma'am, this card expired in 2008. Do you have a more current one?"

I opened up my wallet and snorted again. I pulled out another card and handed it to the officer.

"Ma'am, this card expired in 2009. Do you have one that's up-to-date?"

At this point I wouldn't be surprised if he put his hand on his gun. One of those "just in case" moments. I became a little frantic, not knowing what to do. So, I asked the officer if I could have a minute, picked up my cell phone, and called my husband.

Chris had a busy morning and at that particular time I knew he was in the middle of ministering to a refugee family in the city. I only call him during these times if it's an emergency. My husband has his own commentary on this 30 second interaction, but here is what the officer heard: "Look, I'm sorry that I interrupted the prayer....can't you just go to another room....well I'm crying too...I can't find our car insurance....because I got stopped....I really was not going that fast....how long will it take you to get here from there...thirty five minutes...." At this point the officer interrupted, so I hung up.

"Ma'am, um, why don't you check the glove compartment?"

Right. I opened the glove compartment and low and behold - the 2010 car insurance. I handed it to the officer and he went back to his car, probably grateful to get away from me for a few minutes.

The first phone call was to my sister, Bekah. In the midst of my sobs, I explained to her why it was now 10:15 and I was still not there. She graciously told me it would be alright. I wanted more sympathy, so I decided to call my other sister. As soon as I began to dial, Lily began screaming. She wanted to get out of the car and take a walk. I tried to pull myself together for my daughter's sake. "Lily," in the midst of sobs, "mommy was speeding because she was trying to get to Auntie Bekah on time, even though I was already totally late. I am now in trouble with a police officer, and possibly your father, and I would appreciate if you would just be quiet for a few minutes."

It was a one way conversation. She started to scream louder. The officer approached my door again, looked in the back at Lily, and looked back to me. "Ma'am, crying gets me every time. I'm letting you go with a warning. Have a good day." I waved my arm because I couldn't speak, due to my emotion overload.

I looked at the clock: 10:18. For a moment, I just sat there. At that point I was only thirty three minutes late. Pushing thirty four minutes, I decided in that moment that I was going to turn over a new leaf. I decided in that moment that I would I would re-define my time lines. I decided in that moment that I was going to be an on time person.

The next day, I needed to be out of the house by 9:15. We pulled out of the driveway at 9:35. My husband is right - my internal clock must be off. I'm just glad it's not my fault.

Worry No More

I have a worrying problem. My dad had a perpetual "nervous stomach" while growing up, so perhaps it is hereditary.

I usually spend two hours up in the middle of the night or trying to fall asleep at the beginning of the night.

At first, I worry that my husband will fall asleep before I do.
If he falls asleep before I do, I won't be able to fall asleep because of his snoring.
If I can't fall asleep because of his snoring, I'll be absolutely exhausted in the morning.
If I'm absolutely exhausted in the morning, I won't function well in the morning.
If I don't function well in the morning, I won't get in a good work out.
If I don't get in a good work out, I'll be cranky.
If I'm cranky, I'll have a short temper with my kids.
If I have a short temper with my kids, we'll all be upset.
If we're all upset, the complaining will start.
If the complaining starts, the homework will take longer.
If the homework takes longer, the kids won't have time to play.
If the kids don't have time to play, my "to do" list won't get done.
If my "to do" list doesn't get done, I'll be stressed out.
If I'm stressed out, I won't be able to sleep.
If I can't sleep, my husband will fall asleep before me.

I should, by God's grace, be able to replace each and every "If" with one, simple "Because."
Because God is faithful, I can trust in Him.

Photos from Family Day

We had a family day last Thursday and decided to try the City Museum. Aside from losing two out of three of our children for several minutes at a time, fighting over whether or not to attend the magic show, getting my way and entering the magic show only to leave two minutes later because our two year old climbed up on stage, enduring a severe temper-tantrum because taking the balls hostage from the ball pool is not allowed, having to stop the train in the middle of the ride because someone's daughter panicked in the middle, and getting caught in a rain storm, we had a great time. If only every outing would go this smoothly.... :)

Tall Tales

My son is extremely gullible. For the last several weeks, he's been complaining about a scorpion that's been hiding in his bed. Due to the unwelcome creature, he has refused to use his covers. Instead, Jrod has requested a light, but itchy, wool blanket that barely covered him. I needed to do something about the situation.

So, one morning I came down the stairs and announced that I had caught the scorpion. He looked at me with big, believing eyes: "No way, mom! What did he look like?"

It was as easy as that. "Well, Jrod, he was green, but a nice green, not a mean green."

"Where did you put him?" I anticipated this question, figuring he would want to see the creature.

"In the toilet."

"Mom, you killed the scorpion!" This, I did not anticipate.

I thought quick. "You see, when the scorpions go down the toilet, they go into a river. Once they're in the river, they're safe."

"Oh, man, Mom. So he's going to come back!"

Good grief. This one was keeping me on my toes. "No, Jrod, he won't come back because he was a winter scorpion. You see, it's spring and almost summer now. So he's gone - he doesn't like the warmer weather."

"Great. Glad that's over." That night my son pulled up his covers....for the first time in a month.

Sometimes, I can't believe how easy it is. And sometimes after one of these tall tales, I wonder to myself: what is more disturbing? The fact that he believes every word I say or the fact that these fictional stories come so easily to me?

Tonight, once again, my son proved his absolute vulnerability and I proved my fictional creativity (for the sake of argument). I put curlers in Ella's hair for the first time, just to try something new. When I was finished, Jrod came downstairs and exclaimed, "Mom, what in the world is in Ella's hair?"

"Alien reactors, Jrod. You see, these help Ella to get a better sense of what the Aliens are saying."

Ella stood there very still. She is a rational child. A child with a conscience (which clearly does not come from her mother). I could tell that she was having an internal debate - do I tell him that these are plain old curlers, or do I tell him the sensation I'm getting from the Alien's messages?

After getting as close to Ella as he would allow himself, Jrod spoke up very cautiously: "Ella, what does it feel like? Do you feel it in your brain or is it just like sharp? " I couldn't help myself. "Jrod, she can't feel it, she can only hear them."

"Wow."

Ella couldn't take it anymore. "OK, OK, they're just curlers, Jrod. They just make my hair curly!" I suppose I should be thankful that when my husband is away, there is at least one adult in the house.

Jrod tilted his head and replied with a very simple, "Oh."

The funny thing is that I couldn't sleep last night. There was something bothering me that I couldn't shake. I tried to rationalize my absurd and ridiculous thoughts, but what if my worries had merit? What then? So, at 2:30 in the morning, I crept into my sons room, lifted up his newly used blankets and did a big swipe. No scorpions.

I deserved that wrest less night.

Accomplishments

My mom has been cleaning out her house. She's been deep cleaning out her house. Ella has been hearing about this cleaning out process and asked that I put in a special request: she wanted all the trophies that my mom has proudly displayed through the years that represent various accomplishments from her three girls.

I granted Ella the request, but under one condition. We were not going to take home all the trophies, just a few of mom's old ones. Ella looked at me, twinkle in her eye, and said she was totally fine with that. And there it was - one of those proud mom moments. One of those moments where you imagine your daughter thinking to herself: "Wow, my mom's cool." She wanted my old trophies. How cute.

Ella was willing to follow my stipulation; however, my mother was not. She brought over three garbage bags full of trophies and high tailed it out of our house. I had no other choice but to drag them into the living room and dump them on the floor. I told them they could each choose five trophies to keep. The rest were going in the trash.

Ella started crying. Oh the sentiment: "You can't throw these away! These are not trash! These are trophies!" And then the groveling begun. "Please, please mom don't put these trophies in the garbage! They'll just get crushed up and......"

"Fine!" I resented my choice, but I decided to up the number. They could each keep ten. Another proud mom moment. My two kids looked up at me with gratitude in their eyes. I could now hear my sons thoughts right in line with his sisters - "wow, my mom is so cool."

I thought it was ridiculous to keep twenty old trophies around the house, but I have to admit I had a sense of pride...they wanted something that represented their mom's "coolness" that I just knew was front and center on their minds.

Both kids began meticulously picking up each trophy, putting much thought into which ones they were going to keep. And here's how the next several moments went:

"Wow, mom! I can't believe you got this huge soccer trophy! I didn't know you could play soccer so awesomely."

"Yea, well, Jrod, that's auntie Bekah's trophy. But look at these...."

"Mom, this trophy is so cool. Look at how huge it is. I mean this is like the biggest trophy I've ever seen."

"Yea, well, Ella, it's not that big. And, um, that's Auntie Bekah's too." Once they stopped fighting over who would get this prized posession, something else caught their eye."

"Wow! Look at all these swimming trophies! You must have been the best swimmer ever!"

"Yea, well, kids were Auntie Erin's, but check out these...."

"Ella! Look at this one! This one is for basketball! Mom, you got a trophy for basketball?"

At this point, I was sitting on the couch with my arms folded. I wasn't going to answer the question. I wasn't going to tell them that the five basketball trophies also were my sisters. Yes, friends, I had a thirty-one year old temper tantrum. I was giving them the silently treatment until I finally came up with a plan. I began putting to the side all of my trophies. I then interrupted their "wow's" and "cool's" and called the room to attention.

"Guys," the pride was dripping from my voice, "look over here. These are all of mommy's trophies. Ella and Jrod, my basketball team may not have won state, I may have only lasted in soccer for one year, and I may not be able to swim a lap, but let me tell you, mommy could play piano duets. I really rocked. I mean, I could really play those concertos."

As soon as I finished with my "vote for mom" speech, I realized just how lame I sounded. My kids didn't seem too impressed by the miniture sized cups next to the grand soccer statue.

"Um, cool mom." I knew J-rod said it merely out of sympathy. So Ella chimed in, following her brothers lead: "Yea, mom, those are, um, cool."

At that point, I changed the rules. I told them they could still pick out ten trophies, but five of them had to be mine.

They started whining and complaining. They just had to have all ten of auntie E's and B's. They were just way cooler! After about thirty seconds, I stepped back from the situation and I started to laugh. What was I saying? Well, I know what I was saying, but really, was I actually telling my children they had to pick my piano trophies to display in their rooms? Yep, I was.

I regained my maturity and told them they they could pick whatever ten they wanted, just put all the rest in paper bags. It didn't take but another five minutes, and their chosen trophies were proudly put up in their rooms. Ella put them all over her dresser and stood in front of them with a sense of pride and satisfaction. Jrod put them all over his bed, telling me that they would give him good dreams.

Good Grief.

I went down stairs and took the rejected trophies to the garage. I kept three of my trophies for Lily....who I'm sure will very much want them one day....I'm just sure....

So, my dear sisters. My kids admire now everyday your great accomplishments and your magnificent awards. I will swallow my pride and clap my hands along side of my star-struck children. Just remember one thing:

I am the oldest. There are some accomplishments that are so great, they need no trophies or awards, and being the oldest is one of them. And I will remind this to Ella one day when her children are marveling over Jrod's gold medals and ridiculously sized gold men. So I hold my head up high and tell myself this one little lie: I am the oldest of three. Surely, my friends, they learned it all from me....